Being the Gentleman


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Greetings to all the kings out there.

Sometimes you just need something short and quick to get you through the week. Instead of my longer articles, today I’m giving you the Joker to King “Gentleman’s List”. What you have here are twenty tips that all Kingly gentleman abide by.

The King’s List


  1. Embody the Five Wells. Dr. Robert Franklin, former president of Morehouse College, established for the young men of the college an informal code of conduct known as the Five Wells. Real gentlemen are renaissance men with a social conscience who are well-read, well-traveled, well-spoken, well-dressed, and well-balanced.
  2. Do the important inner work on yourself as early in your life as possible. This includes getting control of your attitude, sharpening your focus, strengthening your intellect, and broadening your attention span. Contemplate on this for a moment. 
  3. In social situations, gentlemen always get noticed, but they are never the center of attention. Understand the difference.
  4. Remember that there are three stages of masculinity: boy, guy, and man. Boys are immature in mind, body, and behavior. Guys are mature in body, but have not completely transitioned into mature thinking and behavior. Men have matured in all three aspects.
  5. Not everyone deserves your respect. But absolutely no one deserves your disrespect. There really isn’t any time when you’ll need to belittle someone, ridicule someone, or otherwise make someone feel less than they are. It’s not your job to knock someone down a peg or two. Life does that to people already.   
  6. A gentleman remains in control of himself at all times.
  7. Plant a tree or raise a child. Just bring to life something that will outlive you.
  8. Underpromise and overdeliver. (This is the core of a gentleman’s integrity. It’s so important that it should have been listed first.)
  9. Don’t take credit for things you didn’t do.  
  10. Don’t take responsibility for mistakes you didn’t make.
  11. Learn how to make the first move in almost every situation.  Real men lead.
  12. Gentlemen are kind. But do not mistake kindness for weakness.
  13. Boys take. Guys use. Men provide. Gentlemen serve.
  14. Change is necessary, change is inevitable, and change is good. Embrace change. Remember the wise words of Muhammad Ali: “The man who views the world at 50 the same as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life.”  
  15. You can tell the size of a man’s character by the size of the things that bother him.
  16. Don’t get into the debate about who should hold doors open for whom. It’s not worth the argument. The bottom line is this: gentlemen open doors for everyone. It’s the “secret handshake” of the gentleman.
  17. Read often and read a variety of books.
  18. Skip traditional new year’s resolutions, and simply commit to learning one new skill each year, no matter how small (e.g., learn how to install dimmer switches, bake a cake, replace sprinkler heads, or build a bookcase). Learn anything. In the long run, and in unexpected ways, these new things you learn will undoubtedly serve you much better than any petty resolution.
  19. The only thing worse than a bad decision is no decision. Remember that every choice you make is right because you made it. Any choice you don’t make will be made by someone else.
  20. Embody the mantra of the late great Jim Rohn:“Let others lead small lives, but not you.  Let others argue over small things, but not you. Let others cry over small hurts, but not you. Let others leave their future in someone else’s hands, but not you.”

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5 responses to “Being the Gentleman”

  1. Dear Dr. Brown,

    I love your writing and I love this message. I M just getting started with my ministry/business, HITOP Ministries. My mission is to Inspire Men to Love. Listen. Lead.

    May I have permission to post this on my site and share with my readers?

    This is a must read by all men.

    Thank you, Chris Hewitt

    Outlook for iOS



    1. Hi Chris. I just emailed you through your website. Feel free to share, just provide your readers with a link back to this article.


  2. […] Source: Being the Gentleman […]


  3. Dr. Brown,

    Thank you for your response. I will follow your instructions as requested.

    Have an amazing week and thank you for all you are doing to “Transforming Guys to Men.”




  4. Hi Dr. Brown,

    I do not intend to bother you, I just wanted you to see what I am sending my readers. Thank you again, I love your writing!

    This week I have two exciting posts to share with you.

    1. Being the Gentlemen (Author: Dr. Robert Brown) 2. Draw the Line (Author: Chris Hewitt)

    Dr. Brown has been someone I have been following for the last 5-6 months now. His website Joker to King is a must read for all men and women who have men in their life. Read his story, feel his heart, and experience his writing. His latest blog posts is one every parent should read to their son, which is why I wanted to share it with you all. Enjoy!

    Chris Hewitt



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